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Monday, November 3, 2008

Taking care of mommy!

Okay, so it's been a while since my last post. Although the title is "taking care of money", I definitely haven't been doing it! My entire summer was spent trying to prove to myself, husband and anyone else that I am wonder woman. I think we all do that sometimes. Take on all of these things, and then when we don't get the appreciation we think we deserve, we get upset. Won't we ever learn?....




Well let's update. I no longer work the night retail position. Get this, my husband asked me to quit, because he says the home was being neglected! Yeah exactly, that's what I said. Well even he realized this comment came off as chauvinistic, and he switched it up. He claims that I looked sooo tired from working sooo much, that I should just give it up. Well, I wanted to keep my employee discount (loved that discount) so I told him I would think about it. Had no intention on quitting, but would you believe the next week, they told me that the night crew was no longer needed?! I lost my little job, just like that. Oh well, I was kinda tired. I also stopped the babysitting as my husbands job location changed. He's home later, and later so his pickup is so irregular that I can't plan anything through the week. This is rather disappointing, and makes me feel so trapped. I would love to get a seasonal job in the evening just to see people, but I don't have anyone to watch the kids. Hiring a babysitter would cost more than I actually would make in retail, plus we only have one vehicle. Guess I'm stuck. I'm trying to remain optimistic though, I figure if I continue my schooling, then in a few years I will have a career.




I am also trying to pay more attention to me. Taking better care of my hair, skin and nails. I used to be so good at that stuff, from the clothes to the shoes, to the purses. Now, I feel like that frazzled lady at the mall. I'm just somebodies mama. Did a ponytail rollerset last night, and gave myself a facial. I still have to flat-iron my roots, and next time I won't use as much setting foam. I'm going to polish my nails tonight. I also want to try on a lot of things in my closet, and make an attempt to tailor what I can, and give away the rest. I'm tired of holding on to old stuff I can fit. I want to look sexy and cute again, and get those second glances from men when I walk down the street. Now if a man takes a second look, I figure their admiring the kids, not me! Marriage makes you forget that your desirable.




I also want to start working out, if I can get my lazy butt to the gym. I guess I just have to do it, and that would be nice break from the kids. I'm going tonight, no matter what!

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Marriage misconceptions

Okay, like most women out there, I had a LOT of preconceived notions about marriage. I couldn't wait to get married! Guilt free sex, constant companionship, and I truly loved my mate. Yeah I knew it was hard work, and everyone told me that things change. Yet, you know how you are at that stage... You think, "yeah, not us", or "we'll always keep that spark alive!". Well five years and two kids later, I must say that while the spark hasn't died, it sure is flickering! Don't get me wrong, I love my husband and kids, but do you ever just get tired? Tired of being a wife and mother? I feel more like the housekeeper/babysitter, than a wife. Sometimes it feels like everyone else, gets to do exactly what they want, while I'm stuck compromising. Is that what marriage and motherhood is, one big compromise?

Have mothers down through the years, experienced and dealt with these same problems? I'm a stay-at-home mom, and believe me, not by choice. What people don't realize is that most stay-at-home mom's or as they call us "sahm", are at home because we can't afford to put the kids in daycare. The cost to put two kids in daycare, and then commuting to work just doesn't make it worth it. So I do what I can to bring extra money in, while at home. Believe me, the amount of money your paid, for things like babysitting or working night retail work, is VERY little. Getting paid amounts like $5 and $8 per hour really has a way of making you feel devalued. Yet any money is money, so I trudge on.

My goal is by the time my children are school-age, I have obtained have either done one or all of the following: Obtained my nursing degree, published a manuscript, or become a registered child care provider. I am well on my way to becoming a registered child care provider, so that feels pretty good. I figure I'm at home, so I might as well make some money. So I work three late, late (by late I mean, I don't get in until 3am) nights per week and I also babysit during the day hours.

Now my husband swears that "I don't know how good I have it", as he golfs every Tuesday and Saturday, while I take care of the kids. Hmmph! Who really has it good?..... Well I need to sign off, and go do some housework. My stepson should be up by noon, yeah you heard me noon! I need to do some reading with the little ones, and then work on my child care packet some more.
It feels good to write, and I hope to be able to work on one of my manuscripts today. It's weird, I really enjoy writing, and once I start, I can't seem to stop. The hard part is just starting.